There are plenty of books on the market about getting things done, getting into action, organizing your resources, clearing your clutter and checking things off your lists. My approach to coaching is, in large part, about clearing the inner clutter so the things that land on your list are naturally things you feel aligned with. When you’re naturally aligned with yourself and what’s on your to-do list, energy moves through you more efficiently. Less time is spent in resistance, procrastination and confusion.
If someone isn’t taking action according to their stated priorities, the place to coach is not, as you might think, in the realm of action. When a client sets a goal with its subordinate actions, then fails to complete those actions and, thus, fails to reach their goal, my response is not to attempt to empower their will — which is the gung-ho, “you can do it” coach-as-cheerleader approach — but rather to activate their awareness. I ask them to look at the goal they set in light of their heart-centered values, what I call their “Inner Star”. I invite them to say yes to the goal as an expression of their Inner Star. In the process, if they discover a goal or task is not aligned with their heart-centered values, then it usually drops of the list.
Lots of things land on our lists motivated by “should.” There’s a difference between should and good. Prioritizing our good means prioritizing our motives (our values) over the means (the specific tasks that help us express them). When we keep saying yes to our Inner Star, the universe contrives to deliver circumstances in which we can live its light. Spiritual coaching holds that there is something much bigger and better at work than the mechanisms of our intellect, no matter how sophisticated they may be.
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